Category Archives: Inspiration


Carpe Diem, And Other Brilliant Advice from Fran Drescher

Last week I had the amazing opportunity to hear Fran Drescher speak (Sending a huge thanks to my Aunt Sheree for having me, and hosting such an incredible event!).  Not only is Fran Drescher incredibly funny and beautiful and passionate, but she’s unbelievably inspirational.  She spoke about the story of how The Nanny got its start, and I wanted to share a bit of her story here. Prior to getting her big break with The Nanny, Fran had done a few tryouts and pilots for CBS, but so far, nothing had stuck, and of course, as we all know, she wanted to be an actress.

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“It wasn’t until I decided to take a vacation and visit a girlfriend who had a little house in the Southwest part of France, that really my life changed forever.  I cashed in some frequent flier miles; it was on TWA and they were running a special, so I had enough mileage to sit in first class.  I get onto the plane and who comes walking onto the plane but the President of CBS television, Jeff Sagansky.  Now I am a person who always believes in carpe diem.  Seize the day  …  I looked up at him and I said, “Jeff?”  and he said, “Fran?” because he knew who I was — I had done a few pilots for CBS and a very short-lived series with Twiggy, so he said “Fran” and I said “Jeff”, and then I ran into the bathroom to put some makeup onAnd as I’m powdering my face I’m saying ‘carpe diem’ ‘carpe diem”, you know, really, it’s an opportunity, which by the way, knocks on the door each and every day, but its only if we can recognize it and walk through it that we can make a difference in our lives and move in a direction that we want to move into.  So when I come out, he’s hanging around the stewardesses section … now the flight attendants … and we started talking.  He said, ‘Oh you know we have a lot of pilots, Fran, we’ll find you something,’ and I said, ‘Jeff, you know, I don’t think you’re going to find me anything that’s gonna fit me hand-in-glove because I’m too unique.  And you’ve gotta hear what my husband and I have been brainstorming, because we know my brand of comedy.’  Well, he was a captive audience because, you know, where was he going to go, Coach? … We didn’t have the idea yet, but I made Jeff think I had the idea.”

After a few days in France, Fran took a flight to London to visit her friend, Twiggy …

“And you know this was a very big milestone trip for me because I had never really done anything this major by myself.  i actually had a bit of a co-dependent personality, and i didn’t like to be alone, it turns out, after twelve years of psycho-therapy.  i was really pushing myself to do something like go over to Europe by myself …”

Fran later has her light bulb moment while babysitting Twiggy’s daughter in London; “So I started schlepping Carly, the proper little English twelve year old school girl all around, because although I had managed to get my ass over there, I still wasn’t comfortable in a major city all by myself.”  After a few humorous hours together, Fran realizes she gives the girl “parenting” advice by not really telling the little girl what’s good for her, but rather, what’s good for Fran, “self-serving advice” as she calls it.  She eventually pitched her idea as a spin on The Sound of Music, except, in Drescher’s words: “Instead of Julie Andrews, I come to the door!”, and with that, the concept for The Nanny was born.  She got her meeting with Jeff and development, and The Nanny went on to be one of the most popular series of the 90s.  And Fran always stuck to her guns; the show, written by Fran and her then husband, took much of its inspiration from Drescher’s personal life growing up in Queens, basing names and characteristics on her funniest relatives and friends.  The Nanny  was lovingly referred to as “the ’90s version of I Love Lucy.”

Inspiration - I went into the world, threw myself into the world, and great things came out of it. - Fran Drescher, The Nanny - glitterinc.com

I went into the world, threw myself into the world, and great things came out of it.” – Fran Drescher

The moral of the story: seize the day, and don’t forget to powder your nose.


Lexi

Fight Fat Talk

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I want to take a minute, or five, to break from the holiday cheer (and addictive shopping) to ask a question: How often do you call yourself the “f” word?  And by that, I mean, how often do you fat shame yourself?  And why do we do that?  With all of these holiday parties and baking and photos and fashion and new year’s expectations, I think my “f” bombs are worse than ever.  I make jokes about being fat or chubby.  I’ve called myself a whale, a cow, a heffer, and I am none of the above.  I deride my cankles, my chubby knees, my hips, on a really bad day I’d swear my ears were fat.  Mostly, I am just crazy.  Clearly.

My husband and I talked about this horrible condition girls today have, and his take:  it’s a defense mechanism.  We diffuse the situation, by blurting out that we already know we look terrible, in our minds, clearing the air, and preventing anyone else from judging us harshly (though they wouldn’t; it’s us.  We’re too hard on ourselves.  Way too hard.)  Remember that scene in Pitch Perfect …

Chloe: What’s your name?
Fat Amy: Fat Amy.
Aubrey: You call yourself Fat Amy?
Fat Amy: Yeah, so twig bitches like you don’t do it behind my back.

Is that what we think?  That everyone is secretly judging us, and our only defense is to throw ourselves under the metaphorical bus?

Is it the images we’re inundated with?  There is no doubt about it:  Hollywood is getting thinner.  So much thinner.  Kim Kardashian was wrecked throughout her pregnancy because she was convinced that she was fat, and tabloids blew up her images and insisted she was fat, so mere months after giving birth, and much starvation that I can only imagine was involved, she’s in a bikini with a professional photographer to re-claim her thin-ness.  And Kim doesn’t weigh under 100 pounds like most of Hollywood.  Actresses are literally disappearing before our eyes.  Google Anne Hathaway, Nicole Kidman, Sandra Bullock, Kate Bosworth, Jennifer Aniston, Leann Rimes, Kate Hudson, ten years ago – they were all a healthy fifteen to twenty pounds heavier – and my guess is, they loathe those old photos.  Don’t get me wrong, I adore these actresses on the Silver Screen, and I can’t imagine the kind of pressure they’re under.  But is part of that pressure keeping with the new “thin” trend?  Are we, as women, making things so much harder on ourselves, by being more and more critical?

And is that why, when we should be feeling strong and confident and beautiful, we tear through our closets miserable at the choices, and proclaim ourselves “fat”?  And are we setting an awful example for our sisters and future daughters?  I pick at myself all of the time, and I watch my teenaged sister do the same.  Only she’s more critical, and it pains me to hear her scorn herself to no avail.

According to Special K‘s latest campaign, 93% of women engage in “fat talk”, calling themselves, or parts of themselves, fat.  Isn’t the way to breaking the cycle, by starting with ourselves?  Fat Talk is contagious – and it’s weighing women down. Special K has partnered with world-renowned supermodel and actress Tyra Banks to help shift the conversation to a more positive one. Visit www.FightFatTalk.com to help SHHHHut down Fat Talk (#FightFatTalk).  And feel free to throw virtual water balloons at me the next time I complain about my thighs.

By the way, the statistics …

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Image via Park & Cube



This post is sponsored by Special K. Thank you so much for supporting the sponsors that make Glitter, Inc. possible!


Lexi

Updates and Mimosas

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Sometimes I’m not good at taking a deep breath and having a little faith.  I get nervous, and type-A and I want to plan and control every little thing.  Not only is it not healthy, but it’s usually pretty fruitless, especially when some things just are out of my hands.  I’ve been worrying myself sick over the launch of the new site.  But as I talked with blogging friends (I love you all!), and did a bit of research, I realized, the design and re-launch process is slow, and a whole lot of work.  And guess what?  I found a developer – who has it all under control.  And for the first time in weeks, I stepped back and decided to let it happen.  Well, the technical side of things, that is.  You can’t imagine how good it feels to just let go and trust.

And here’s the fun part, my new site, Glitter, Inc. (completely under construction as of now), the one I’ve gone on and on about for weeks, months, dare I say years, is finally happening.  We’re bringing this site up to date, and it’s going to be beautiful and shiny and new, and 100% reader-friendly.  I’m merging my two beloved blogs (Glitter & Pearls and Glitter Weddings) into one big beautiful interactive site, and you’re going to get it all.  In the meantime, I’m preparing in all the good ways, which brings me to a two-part question for you all …

Does anyone work with any companies that can offer some great giveaways?

Do you have a store or business with something you’d love to give-away?

I have a few fantastic giveaways already lined up – the kind I really really want to keep for myself, though I promise I won’t – but I thought I would open up the floor to you, my amazing readers, to see if there’s anything you would love for me to giveaway!

And thank you – love you all!

Image Design by Glitter, Inc.


Lexi

Bumps in the Road

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This weekend was stressful.  I had to make an emergency visit to my doctor on Friday (thankfully, all looks a-okay) and I have a big annual scan on Monday that scares me every time.  (Once you’ve had cancer, any kind of cancer, you find that the regular scans and blood work give you more nerves in anticipation of what could be, than any treatments you’ve already been through.  More on that, here.)  And then, blog disaster struck.  Friday night I got an e-mail from my designer who had realized that the coding on my new site – Glitter, Inc. was beyond her capability; a site we had planned to launch in the next few weeks.  A site I’ve been promising for months.  And I found myself stuck with a half-finished site, and a whole lot of commitments to brands (ahem, amazing giveaways coming your way with the launch of the new site.)

I was in a panic, e-mailing and calling every family and blogger friend I had, seeking developer recommendations … the kind of developers willing to bump me ahead of their already months-long waiting list … so far, trying to patiently wait to hear back and hoping someone throws me a life raft.  I have family working on the merge as we speak, and a million e-mails sent.  Fingers crossed.  The worst case scenario: Glitter, Inc. goes live without the beautiful design; the one I had so eagerly anticipated showing you all.  Best case scenario: we get a savior developer and the merge is seamless, and all goes up at roughly the same time.

Either way, the weekend reminded me that running your own business has it’s pitfalls, but we grow and we learn and we take a deep breath and we have big cups of coffee and we adjust.  So for the next few days and weeks, bear with me.  I’m hoping you all will hardly notice a glitch at all, but if we do merge the sites, pre-design being coded into place, please excuse our bare bones look and keep on reading, following, and being an all-around awesome fan of the blog!  I’ll keep you posted!


Lexi

Louis Vuitton Paper Dolls

When I was little and we took big trips, whether we were flying or on lengthier car trips, my mom always had an arsenal of “presents” tucked away in a tote bag, kept for just the right moments (usually small toys, sticker books, paper dolls, car bingo, etc.)  Well, Louis Vuitton has gone and designed their own set of couture paper dolls, and I’m half-tempted to print a few out at our last hotel to play with on our flight back from Europe.

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The famous design house collaborated with Australian illustrator Kerrie Hess and stylist Kim Hersov to create these darling watercolor dolls and their trendy spring wardrobes. The outfits’ designs were taken from Vuitton’s Spring/Summer 2013 collection.  You can download the fashion plates for free online here.

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I also think they’d make awesome framed “prints” in an office or styled closet. DIY project!


Lexi

Dinner Party Gatherings

Maybe it’s that I’m dreaming of our trip to Italy as I write this, but I’m so inspired by all of these outdoor dining parties, set atop rustic tables, full of fresh salads, sliced meats and cheeses, and plenty of bread.  Traveling to Europe always has me re-thinking the way we live, eat, entertain, and just enjoy.  Don’t you think it’s high time we bring back dining al fresco with friends?

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Images via A Farnum // La Buena Vida {Kinfolk Magazine’s Flower Pot-Luck} // What Katie Ate // Wit & Delight // Style Me Pretty


Lexi